beauty is such a privilege. the free shit you get because people think you’re attractive enough to deserve it/want to fuck you bad enough that they’ll come off some coint. it’s the difference between getting into an exclusive club and having to wait outside just to be told no - without any explanations. shit sometimes it’s just ha difference between surviving and not. there’s obviously layers to the shit but some folks can opt in and opt out - that’s still a privilege but you’re able to still feel that oppression based on your ability to not be considered conventionally attractive. there’s even more levels to this shit when you’re aware of anti-blackness, gender, sizism, ability and sexuality.
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Yet we haven’t even spoken on the mental states of the ones who internalize the message that they are unattractive. It’s so oppressive and life limiting on so many levels; sense of entitlement, self-esteem, self-respect, self-appreciation (all determining one’s life choices or even life course). Thinking you’re unattractive is so damaging to the advancement of one’s life it’s unimaginable.
OK seriously this is getting ridiculous now… at a certain point you have to draw a line somewhere as to how particular you want to be when it comes to shit like this because otherwise it would never end. Keep applying this logic and if you try hard enough you can use just about any differences no matter how tiny and irrelevant they are as a basis to claim oppression.
Oppression isn’t being snubbed occasionally because someone is considered slightly better looking then you (something very opinionated) or some other similar asinine reason. Oppression is something much bigger then that and typically damning or threatening. Not “boohoo I wasn’t let into a club because the bouncer had a bad day boohoo”.
This shits getting unreal now, honestly. Every shitty thing that happens to you isn’t inherently connected the tumblrs current clusterfuck of social politics and similar wank. Sometimes bad shit happens, sometimes people are mean for no particular reason, Sometime things wont go your way. You can’t just connect every little thing you don’t like to oppression vs privilege.
The world doesn’t owe you shit and this crap legitimately takes away from people that are legitimately oppressed and in extremely fucked up situations.
I’ma say it again - there’s so much privilege in being pretty/conventionally attractive. There are so many factors to prettiness - so many layers when you implicate colorism, size and gender. Being attractive can put food in your mouth, pay the rent, keep you kept and thriving. Take Kim Kardashian - people continuously question her worth/validity and yet - the bitch remains solvent, paid, kept, well fed, clean and close. She has used her beauty privilege to market herself on every medium available for mass consumption - using her capital from already being attractive/connected to attractive peopel to become more connected and ~uber attractive~ because more pretty means more opportunities and money. Do not be fooled into thinking oppression is unilateral - it is layered and infects all aspects of our day to day and whether or not you’re uninformed on the issue it does not make the issue unworthy of critique or conversation.
This is also something that’s mainly apparent to people who had culturally specific beauty privilege but then LOST it. For example, thin women who develop thyroid conditions and have to learn to be fat and have points for that “docked from their score”. Women who have had acid thrown in their faces. Women who become disabled, women who did not age well, physically, but were recipients of beauty privilege in their youth. Women whose beauty privilege is reliant on money, and decreases significantly upon socioeconomic change. Women who lose their hair or breasts from cancer. These are all examples Women who used to have enough points from various categories (face, race, weight, body, accent, all sorts of stupid ish) to be considered Conventionally Attractive, but then due to circumstance can lose enough points to slip beneath the dividing line. I like to use a point system when discussing lookism because there are women who have all of these features but have enough face points from God. Or body points or whatever, to stay above the line.
There are also examples that are not gender reliant, like beautiful people getting lighter prison sentences, getting promoted faster, paid more, and being able to talk themselves into loans, etc. And also ones that affect children, some children being given harsher and more punishment, other children getting more attention from teachers. Sometimes lookism can even override other “isms”. For example, when you hear a racist say something like “I would never fuck a black woman. Except maybe Beyoncé. Or Naomi Campbell”. This isn’t really an ism that can be directly fought like most other forms of discrimination, because it’s largely cultural. But it DOES Exist. And there are many studies on it.
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This is 1000% accurate. I learned first hand when I was thin and vaguely cute, after never having been those things before. Suddenly people flirted with me, threw themselves at me, gave me free shit. I can’t even tell you how much less resistance and friction I had in my life. When people don’t want to look at you, they don’t want to talk to you, and they treat you like a nuisance.